Hello my sweet friends! Today, I’ve got a treat for you! My BFF (since 9th grade) is hanging out with us! Her name is Julie Garmon and she’s an amazing writer…Julie writes regularly for Guideposts and has been published in CrossWalk and Christianity Today…she’s currently writing a novel! I asked her to share a heart post with us this week while I’m on vacation…I know you’ll love her if you don’t already know her!
While my children were growing up, I believed a lie.
I thought if I could be a Perfect Mother, I could raise Perfect Children.
Have you ever heard of such nonsense?
On my first day at home with baby Jamie (our first child), my mother stopped by.
Jamie started screaming. I couldn’t do anything to make her happy.
She’s less than a week old and I’m already failing!
Crazy, I know.
I thought it was my job to make sure she never cried.
Or got sick. Or dirty. Or hurt. Or sad. Or lonely.
Or misbehaved when she got older.
While we ate supper, I laid her on the sofa. Somehow she wiggled toward the back of the sofa.
What kind of Perfect Mother does things like this?
Before Mother left, we snapped a few happy pictures.
I’m smiling (a Perfect Mother always smiles) but on the inside,
I was a Nervous Nellie.
Two and a half years later Katie was born, 30 years ago today, April 30th. 🙂
Happy birthday, Katie!
What pressure! Now I had two little girls to make Perfect.
I tried so hard to be a Perfect Mother.
Which was exhausting.
Cheery notes in lunchboxes, ribbons in hair, matching outfits, plus I never screamed (on the outside).
Then something happened that began to change me.
Our third child Robbie was born with anencephaly.
He lived twenty minutes.
Life and death can rearrange our thinking. Shift priorities.
We had another son two years later.
Slowly but surely, (and definitely while raising teenagers!) I discovered how wrong I was.
It was never my job to be a Perfect Mother.
And something else.
The root of my desire for perfection was control.
I wasn’t in control then.
I’m not in control now.
He’s my Perfect Father. And my children’s Perfect Father too.
Did you believe any crazy lies about motherhood?
I’m helping to spread the word about a new ministry called The M.O.M. Initiative. “Mothers on a Mission to Mentor other Mothers.”
They’re having a conference July 21 – August 2, 2014 in Jacksonville, FL for moms, mentors, and leaders, and are reaching out to mothers everywhere, and not just during the conference.
Such good stuff! Wish this had been around 30 years ago.
Click on the picture below for more information.