Living My Legacy~
Making my house a home
You guys know I’m a big believer that we are all living our legacy every day.
Next on my list of how I want to be remembered is: “She made our house a home”. This one is my heart and will take several posts. I don’t believe a home just happens by chance. A house perhaps, but not a home.
Now, I’m a nesting fool. I love all things home. And, with HGTV and The Food Network and countless magazines devoted to home, garden and food it’s easy to find inspiration to help make your house pretty, functional and organized. But there’s more isn’t there?
First, I think it’s important to know what “home” means to you. When you have an extra couple of minutes take a moment and finish this sentence in several ways. “A home is a place where you…________.” The following is how I finished that sentence.
A home is a place where you:
* find safety~
* find comfort~
* are nourished & flourish!
* touch base~
* leave sometimes, but take the heart of it with you…
I did an exercise similar to this when I was a young mom. As you’ve probably gathered, I’m a bit high strung. Well, ya shoulda known me when I was a young mom! (Julie, can I get a witness?) Ever been somewhere that you got nervous just walking in the door? Well, if I let my guard down, that was our house.
With that in mind I wanted to talk about the first thing on my list…A home is a place where you find safety…
The outside world can be so cold and mean, I wanted our home to be the opposite. Sounds like a plan but half the time, I was the obstacle preventing this from happening. High strung. Super detailed. These are code words for: (I have the tendency to be) critical. I struggled with this, mostly failing, until 15 years ago, when my Pastor (at the time) told me that for every negative thing I said to follow it with 10 positive things!!! That was a life-saver. (It was also a lot of work!) Using my words to build a safe place for my family was the key in making our house a home. It doesn’t matter how beautiful or pristine your house is if the vibe in the house is negative, critical and/or angry it’s not a safe place.
When I focused on my part of making our home a safe place this trickled down from the way I treated everyone to the way the kids treated each other. (The Husband did not have to work on this. Not even a little bit. He’s a naturally kind person in his actions and tone. I would feel terrible about myself in light of this, but I find comfort in what Ruthie says…”Mike won’t get half as much credit in heaven for being kind. Unlike us, he was born that way.”)
Everyone thrives in a safe atmosphere at home. And for me at least, it wasn’t achieved over night. For me, like most things, it took(and still takes) lots of focus and yes, some work.
How do you go about creating safety in your home? Does it come naturally for you (I know whole families who are naturally kind and gracious. I love those peeps! Yea God!) Or are you a bit like me and have to work at it?
I hope to heaven you still like me after this post! Love and prayers for each and every person reading this…