This year, I’ve learned a little bit about friendship, something at which I’m not very skilled.
A happy surprise was recognizing my friendships with those who aren’t ‘face-to-face’ friends.
The online community is real and loving and supportive. (I wrote about that HERE)
And my eyes have been opened to the beauty of reconnecting with old friends as far back as Middle School through social networks like Facebook… (wrote about that HERE)
But in the face to face friend department … well let’s just say this year has been a bit disorienting.
I pray about this all the time. The Husband and I talk about it at least every other week. I ask for answers…
“Why don’t I have any day-in-day-out face to face friends God? Is it my loner personality? Am I slightly anti-social? Do I not like people?”
When I was processing the photo of my daughter Bethany’s beautiful chair it struck a nerve. Made me a little sad.
“That’s how I feel about my face to face friendships this year.” I told God.
“A little like I’m in a corner. In a time-out.
I mean Father, the chair is pretty and all but it’s still in a corner…”
And then like slide show in my mind, I started seeing faces. Precious faces…
The Husband… my soul mate and my truest friend.
My daughters…Bethany, Stephanie and Emma…as they’ve grown into young women, my love for them has blossomed. I’m so honored and blessed that they are my best friends.
Deb…my sister…a bond like no other. So often, she is the only person on the planet who knows exactly how I’m feeling. Deb and I are forever friends.
Julie…my friend for 34 years. We don’t live close so we don’t see each other much but we talk several times a week, we understand each other. I love her like a sister. She is, as Anne (of Green Gables) would say, my bosom friend.
And there were faces of other friends… our lives intersecting here and there over the years. The kind of no-pretense friends whose conversations go deep in 2 seconds.
“So”, (I think) The Father said. “You aren’t in friendship time-out, the chair may be in the corner Child, but you aren’t in it. Didn’t you notice…it’s empty?”
I wrote this a couple of weeks ago and can I just say… this friendship journey continues to take sharp unexpected turns.
I’ve been asking God if He wants to impress on me One Little Word for 2011…
But, for the record, I’m okay if He doesn’t!