“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.
Which road do I take? she asked.
Where do you want to go? was his response.
I don’t know, Alice answered.
Then, said the cat, it doesn’t matter.”
I love this quote. Perhaps it because I’ve come to umpteen forks in the road and wanted desperately to know which road to take. But most of the time, I made the decision without knowing my destination.
It’s taken me a long time to learn to start my journey with the end in mind. And still, every few months, I find myself skipping off-course, chasing butterflies down a side road headed nowhere.
Starting with the end in mind can be applied to every decision from who we choose to spend our lives with all the way down to … do I go on my run today or eat cookies? (Maybe that’s just me!)
I guess the biggest battle in my life has been with addiction. Alcohol being my ‘drug of choice’.
I started and stopped 3 or 4 times before finally admitting…I’m addicted. I am a person who can’t drink at all. Not even a little.
For weeks before I quit, I kept seeing myself as a 60 year old woman drinking every day. What would my family remember after I was gone? Would the drinking cloud whatever legacy I wanted to leave my children? Would the drinking become who I was? That’s not where I wanted to end up…
Picturing the end of my journey helped me take a different road when the time came. How I wish I’d thought more about where I wanted to go earlier.
That’s why I love the quote.
Are you at a fork in the road? If so, can I be the Cheshire cat for a moment?
Where do you want to go?
And may I add… your choice matters…