What if… our words made a difference in the way we live?
What if…our words set the mood for our days?
What if… our words matter? Would it change what we say?
I’m one of those people with lots of words. I don’t always say them, but trust me, my mind if full of them.
All the time.
And since I have a tendency to be a glass-half-empty kind of person, you can imagine that my go to response in a stressful or angry moment is often negative. And often damaging.
In years past, my negative words were so often directed at my children or The Husband. It didn’t matter how hard I tried, sometimes poison spilled out of me and onto those I love the most. This seemed impossible for me to control until I heard a pastor say: “For every negative things you say to or about your children or your spouse, say 10 positive things”.
That simple discipline literally turned my thoughts around. Although it took some time, to this day when I’m around those I love, I notice and think about…and talk about, the good things.
But it hasn’t been that simple with words to or about myself. I am brutally hard on myself. As I’ve aged I am shocked and aghast at the changes in my body. Many days autoimmune issues leave me feeling achy and exhausted. I’ve gained weight and just walking into my closet unleashes a barrage of nasty insults from me – to me.
The other day, as I was dodging an inward assault, I wondered what would happen if I tried that beautiful 10 to 1 practice with the words I use against myself.
Getting older has it’s challenges but getting older is also opening my eyes to so many quietly beautiful things I missed when I was younger.
I’ve started naming those things.
Feeling bad physically isn’t fun but it’s given me reason to start taking more time to be kind to myself.
I’m practicing those calming rituals.
Gaining weight is truly beyond frustrating.
But it’s giving me an opportunity to fine tune my habits and learn to walk in self control.
I’m giving it my best and I’ll let you know if it works.
Do any of you have ways you control your words?
Sending you lots of love filled words today my friends